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Hit Memoir ‘Strangers’ Has Wealthy Women Checking Marital Mone | Bloomberg Businessweek
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· · Hosts: Carol Massar, Tim Stenovec · Guests: Isabelle Lee, Abha Bhattarai
Summary
Belle Burden’s memoir Strangers has turned into a practical prompt for wealthy women to rethink how much they really know about their marriages’ finances. The discussion centered on Burden’s story: a Harvard-educated lawyer who left work after marriage, relied on her husband’s success as a hedge fund manager, and later faced a divorce fight over homes she had bought with trust fund money. The book’s appeal, the host said, is that it shows how even highly educated, well-resourced women can be vulnerable if they have not kept track of accounts, title documents, and agreements.
The guest said the reaction she found in reporting was a broad wake-up call. Women who read the memoir were asking where money is invested, what their deed or prenup says, and even where usernames and passwords are stored. Divorce attorneys also described a shift away from static prenups toward more fluid arrangements, including postnuptial agreements, as couples move in and out of the workforce.
The conversation argued that financial delegation in marriage can quietly become financial dependence. The guest said many women now earn as much as, or more than, their spouses, yet about half still defer money decisions. The practical takeaway was simple: know where assets are held, check beneficiaries, and make sure you can access the people and paperwork that control your financial life.
Key takeaways
- The guest said Strangers has pushed women to ask where their money is invested and what their prenup or deed actually says.
- The guest reported that divorce lawyers are seeing more requests to revise prenups and create postnuptial agreements as careers and caregiving roles change.
- The guest said about half of women in the country still defer to their spouses on financial decisions, even when they earn as much or more.
- Women are being urged to check beneficiaries on 401(k)s and life insurance, and to make sure a current spouse is listed, not an ex-spouse.
- The host framed the memoir as a reminder that even privileged, educated women can be exposed if they do not know the details of their assets.
Notable quotes
“I need to know where all the money is, where it's invested, exactly what the terms are of our deed or our prenup”
“sometimes, you know, it was as simple as just knowing where the usernames and passwords were”
“today's agreements are much more fluid. They're they're being revised”
“What if I step out of the workforce? Then can I get a cut of your retirement money”
How the episode opens
Bloomberg Audio Studios podcasts, radio, news. — You're listening to Bloomberg Business Week with Carol Masser and Tim Stenc on Bloomberg Radio. — This book has been everywhere u from news articles to podcast like even Oprah Winfrey like celebrities have read it and it's definitely a hit series. It's a memoir called Strangers. It's written by Belle Burden and the TLDDR, too long didn't read. The long story short is she's a Harvard educated lawyer. She met her husband working in a law firm. They both have fancy jobs. They are both smart, educated, beautiful people. They get married.
Sounds like very New York story. — Yes. They get married and then the guy continues to work, becomes the successful hedge fund manager, very New York, very Wall Street. And she stops working. And she said it was almost automatic like I stopped working, they had kids, they raised a family. and she said, "I loved handing everything to him." I mean, some don't yuck anyone's yum, as I say, like if that's her preference, like to let her husband handle everything, that's fine.
But I feel like the breakup was all splashed over um a lot of New York newspapers. — They broke up and I forgot to mention that she's obviously very privileged. She bought their homes, one in Martha's Vineyard in a beautiful Tribeca flat. I don't even know if it's beautiful. I'm assuming it's beautiful. Using her own trust fund money.
Sounds like it is. So, it's her own trust fund money, but when the man asked for a divorce, he wanted 50/50. And that's why in the book, she was like, "Oh, I was on the verge of losing both homes." And that's why a lot of the I think I don't want to say just women, but people who read this or I mean, you know, maybe it's a
Maybe it's a husband who's dependent on the spouse financially.
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Topics
- marital finances
- women and wealth
- personal finance advice
- financial agreements
- equalizing financial knowledge
Companies and tickers mentioned
- Bloomberg
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